My husband is a gem. Sometimes I mention him in my blogs – especially when I can poke a bit of fun – but today I feel like telling you why it is so great to live with him and what makes him the best husband I could possibly have. I guess I am inspired by the three-day weekend we just spent together. We both felt it was kind of a magical time. Everything sort of came together. We didn’t talk about work (much), we ‘flowed’ – just sort of went with what was happening and what we felt like doing.
It reminded me of when we fell in love 25 years ago. It was just the two of us this weekend. He took care of making all of the arrangements like flights, hotels, car rental, etc. I had a lot to do with suggesting the plans. Neither of us put any pressure on the other. He watched some of the U.S. Open. I read the newspaper. He got up early and found a Starbucks. I went to work out. We traveled light – carry-ons only. We went to bed early and slept in.
Of course, it didn’t hurt that we had some pretty fabulous plans. Massages at the Mandara Spa in the Bahamas, a drink at the One & Only Resort’s beautiful beach bar, an overnight at the Brazilian Court in Palm Beach, dinner at their restaurant – Daniel Boulud (fantastic), a couple of hours on a pretty cool boat. We drove around the Palm Beach area reminiscing about what life was like back 13 years ago when I worked at the Mar-a-Lago spa and lived in West Palm for two years. We couldn’t even afford massages back then.
Lots has happened since that time – neither of us would have predicted we would be living in New York, working together running a company called SpaFinder. Life sure has a way of surprising us.
As Peter has often said…he is the best ‘wife’ anyone can have. After all these years together we have figured out that arranging our lives so each of us does what we enjoy the most and are best at doing is the way to go. In our relationship Peter does all the cooking, all the shopping (for food and clothes) and basically takes care of everything in our home. He also does all the decorating.
I know, its hard to believe but he absolutely loves all this domestic stuff. And he is really very good at cooking, shopping and decorating. And I am not good at those things. (Photos of a home I decorated years ago are a good reminder of that.) What do I do? Well, I get to work at a job I love. I have time to read, write, study, think. I have time to do the detail kind of work I do like planning the Global Spa Summit, digging into spa research, tracking trends, etc. I get to handle our philanthropy and maintain most of our family relationships. It’s an arrangement that works well for us.
What does all this have to do with the spa lifestyle? Well, we talk so often about balance of body, mind, and spirit and I guess Peter and I had one of those balance experiences this weekend. We know it won’t last all that long since daily challenges (and emails) intrude quickly. But it is nice to have a moment of gratitude and joy about a relationship that has gotten sweeter over the years.
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