At a recent wellness event at the Ritz-Carlton Amelia Island, audience members were asked what they struggled most with and judgement weighed in at #1.
“I judge,” confessed one audience member. She confessed she judged people on what they’re wearing. “I frown upon what they’re doing if I’m not familiar with it. And often, I find myself regretting these preconceptions. How do I correct this behavior?”
Why do we judge?
No one wants to be know as the judgey judgey person. However, many of us judge whether we actually want to or not. Often, it’s simply because we don’t understand the perspective of the other person. Other times, it can be based on our belief system and interaction with anything that differs from that system. It can stem from discomfort when someone mirrors an action, we possess and are not proud of. It can also stem from uncomfortable feelings. So how do you make the best out of this feeling and cut yourself some slack for being judgey?
The mic was then handed over to the panel. MC Yogi, author of Spiritual Graffiti and Yogi, responded by stating, “We all judge. The difference is understanding to temper judgement with discernment.”
Judgement Vs. Discernment
According to an article published by Tinybuddha.com, discernment is awareness and understanding without an emotional response. When one chooses to exercise discernment, it feels very different from getting your buttons pushed. Judgments that cause emotional reactions are clues to help you find personal insight. At a recent wellness event at the Ritz-Carlton Amelia Island, audience members were asked what they struggled most with and judgement weighed in at #1.
When you explore beliefs and assumptions instead of judging people, you open a door to expanded self-awareness and self-acceptance.